Name changed for obvious reasons. I am sorry if this is TMI but I am going crazy.
DP and I have been taking about TTC early next year and getting excited about starting a family and all the rest of it. We are late 20s/early 30s and have been together for almost a decade and are mostly happy. However.
Our sex life is pretty abysmal. I'm lucky to have sex twice a month and he says his sex drive is low - but I've heard him masturbating in the shower. Which leads me to think that he just isn't interested in me? We talk about this and nothing really changes. It's just so humiliating to make an effort and be rejected literally every time. I've had sex even when I wasn't in the mood because I didn't know when I would next get the opportunity and this makes me hate myself. I also feel like an absolute sex pest and it's really knocking my confidence.
I've seen on here, and heard from friends, that your sex drive dies after having a baby and a part of me is sad about that but another part thinks that might be for the best as it'll put an end to me being so frustrated every month. But then that's no way to live your life, is it? But if I had a baby and was very wrapped up in that, would I even care?
I don't really know what I'm asking, I guess I just want to hear about others' experiences? I have basically given up on trying to make DP desire me.
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Sexually frustrated and TTC doubts
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0hDeer · 09/10/2017 14:42
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