My fiance has been offered a kick ass job in New York, his dream job. Three times his current salary, corner office etc...
We have been together a year, I have a DS 8, whose not his and they have been working on developing a bond over the past six months since we have lived together but it has been very tough. My DS is very sensitive (and has found it hard adjusting to having a stepdad on the scene). We also moved to a new area only six months ago so my son is also settling into a new school. It doesnt help that my DS is quite cheeky and my fiance has a son whose an angel.
DS says he wont take job because of me, he thinks I would hate being a SAHM, which to be fair I would. I am currently in a great job as a charity CEO, he is also worried about my son.
Our relationship has been a bit rocky, he gets insanely jealous sometimes and I feel that we argue alot about my son, although he makes lots of effort in person (they both do) they complain bitterly behind each others back about the other one not liking them.
On one hand, if I were single I would leap at chance to go to USA, but the relationship is still so early days and I am not sure whether the whole move to a new country thing is just one step too far.
So I guess the question is do I just tell him now to take thr job as he is a bit jealous anyway and a little bit controlling? He has never harmed me or been mean, but he is just very traditional and thinks he must make the money decisions. etc.....
Worried about implications of being the “one who stood in the way”. Do I dramatically send him packing, quite literally? I love him but the red flags have all started to ping up recently, things like him reading my texts and whatsapps, listening to calls, etc....Is it better for me to tell him how I feel now, so he can take up this great opportunit he has always dreamed of? Or give him the benefit of the doubt? get him to stay and not move to NY... HELP!!!! GOT to make a decision by tomorrow....Thanks very much.
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Fiance wants to move to New York with me and my DS.
workingmamma33 · 08/10/2017 22:33
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