Hi moms out there,
This just happened today. I am a mom with a 6 year old. Been with the DH for 15 years. This weekend he is away on a business trip visiting a trade show. He travels about 2-3 times a year to trade shows, not an awful lot. And usually I don't suspect him of anything when he is away.
I was out at the shopping mall with my kid when I saw DH name flashed up on the screen. I thought it's strange that he would call me on the mainline when he's abroad, usually he would use WhatsApp to call instead.
When I picked up the phone. He said: " Hi babe, where are you? I am done at the trade show. You want to meet me where you left me earlier?"
I was confused. I thought to myself, isn't he in Vienna? And then it clicked my mind, that he dialled the wrong number which called my phone instead of another woman? He is there with another woman?!
I then said to him straight:" I am in the shopping mall with (kid), aren't you in Vienna? Who are you calling babe? Who are you in Vienna with? You realised you called the wrong number and reached my phone, you actually fucked yourself up here. You are lying and cheating behind my back!"
He then pretended the line was bad and hung up. I tried to call him back straight away but it was not reachable. My heart was racing, aching, trying not to cry in the mall full of people and holding my 6 year old's hand.
I then moved to a quiet corner trying to hide my tears. He called back. Frantically trying to explain that he didn't say what I thought h said?! I told him: " oh no.. I believe what I heard, I believe my own ears more than your words right now. You are basically trying to save your own mess now that you accidentally exposed your own lies and cheat."
He told me he swear on our child's and his mother's life that he is not cheating on me that I misheard him. ( I thought why the need to swear one someone's life) He asked me to calm down and have a proper talk with him about this. I ended the phone call and been ignoring all his calls and message since.
He is heading back tomorrow evening. Before he gets back, I plan to just disappear on him by getting a hotel room for couple of nights ( with my kid) just to get away from him and have some space to think about my next step. I want him to know this is serious and he could potentially loose his family. I will have to take my kid off school for 2 days which i feel guilty of but I guess I need to do.
I haven't told any of my friends but I desperately need to talk to someone and hear some advice.
Thanks.
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