I’ve been with DP for 18 months, he has a DD from a previous relationship, I don’t have any. I rent and he lives with his parents after a nasty split with his ex. He stays with me (pays his fair share, sometimes more) except on Friday nights and certain afternoons when he has his DD.
I’ve met his parents although I don’t see them often and have been introduced to his friends. We’ve discussed children/mortgages and we’re both on the same page regarding those. He treats me really well, he’s emotionally supportive and very financially generous, he makes the effort with my parents and we’ve been on holiday together twice now. He’s just paid our deposit for our next holiday in September.
However, there’s something niggling in the back of my mind. I’ve not met his DD yet, which is fine there’s no rush, that’s his choice and I rightly have no say in the matter but I’m thinking does he see me as something temporary? I want to get my life sorted and get on the property ladder, have my own DC (he said he wants this too) but how can I when I haven’t even built a relationship with the child he already has. I’d want to get to know her, involve her and ensure we get along OK before introducing another. The reason he hasn’t introduced me yet is because his ex says she’d cut contact if he does. I understand he’s frightened of that.
He gets offended when I say I’m going to begin working on my own career, house and life but I don’t feel included in his at all. I’m not sure if I’m being silly or overthinking?
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BhunaChicken · 08/10/2017 20:43
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