Really would like some opinions/advice before I do anything I might regret. I’ve been married for 12 year to a genuinely amazing man but I don’t love him anymore and I don’t know what to do.
Sex has been a big problem in our relationship, he suffers from ED and general performance anxiety so when we do have sex it has to be in one position and only in our bed or he loses his erection. Honestly it’s not fun, we haven’t had sex in months because I can’t bring myself to do it. He basically gets no affection at all from me anymore, which I’m not proud of but I just don’t want to even hug him.
He has seen the dr in the past and was given viagra and offered councilling but he refused that. I think essentially is very repressed about sex, he was a virgin when we got together at 21. I know I need to talk to him about these problems and we should try relationship counselling but I can’t see anything changing and I don’t actually want him sexually anymore.
We have three kids, we aren’t ok financially but not much leeway. He earns a good wage but I only work a few hours as I’m a career to our youngest who is disabled. If we split, long term he would be ok financially but I would struggle.
So basically I am torn between staying in a relationship with no love and increasingly no respect but being financially secure or breaking up our family and then maybe still not being happy without him. I also feel it’s really unfair to not give him a chance to be with someone who really loves him.
I’m hoping this makes some sense. I need an outside perspective.
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sockonmyhead · 08/10/2017 16:10
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