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Boyfriend is ridiculously tight with money

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NewBrian Fri 06-Oct-17 19:30:33

Would being this ‘careful’ with money be enough for you to get rid of a boyfriend? We’re both mid twenties, I’m ok financially (not a drain on him), he’s very sorted financially. Recent examples that have annoyed me.
1. Expecting us to sleep in a car after a day out in London save paying for a hotel.
2. Will only buy reduced food, even if doesn’t like it much.
3. Constantly reminding me I owed him £10 after he’d stayed at mine all week.
4. If we go out together we must split everything equally down to the penny.

This is someone that has tens of thousands in the bank and a good job! Seems to be a family trait, his dad is a LL, most of his properties are in London but he walks round in the same battered pair of shoes.

MrsDc7 Fri 06-Oct-17 19:31:17

I couldn't deal with that

OuchLegoHurts Fri 06-Oct-17 19:31:43

I find tightness with money the biggest turn off of all in a person. How can that be sexy? Yuck!

Rubyslippers7780 Fri 06-Oct-17 19:31:58

Too tight. Sleep in a car???
No chance.
Time to move on

elQuintoConyo Fri 06-Oct-17 19:32:19

I'd run a fucking mile. Imagine having kids with him <shudder>

AccrualIntentions Fri 06-Oct-17 19:32:45

Any one of those things alone would put me off.

mumofone234 Fri 06-Oct-17 19:32:50

Ugh, no. That's excessive.

SparklingRaspberry Fri 06-Oct-17 19:32:55

No way. I'd be gone!

Ecureuil Fri 06-Oct-17 19:33:06

It would be game over for me.
Being tight is not an attractive trait. I couldn’t spend my life living like that.

Youcanttaketheskyfromme Fri 06-Oct-17 19:33:07


Sleep in the car ? Fuck off. I'd have paid for a hotel and told him he could sleep in the car.

MyBrilliantDisguise Fri 06-Oct-17 19:34:19

God, how can you stand it? Sleep in the car when he has thousands of pounds in the bank? Asking you for a tenner when he's been sponging off you all week? Awful bloke!

PNGirl Fri 06-Oct-17 19:34:53

No no no. No. No. This is a man that will happily see you rotating 3 milk-stained Sainsbury's vest tops on maternity leave because you aren't earning "your own" money.

HumphreyCobblers Fri 06-Oct-17 19:35:02

Bin him.

He will not change. He would be completely dispiriting with to have any kind of relationship with. I know it is a cliche to state, but people who know the price of everything and the value of nothing are not nice people to be around

MonkeyBrainsInPickle Fri 06-Oct-17 19:35:28

Run for the hills!

Shayelle Fri 06-Oct-17 19:35:37

Sure wouldnt get the fanny gallops for a tightarse like that!!!

MsGameandWatching Fri 06-Oct-17 19:36:23

Did you actually sleep in the car?!

Ploppie4 Fri 06-Oct-17 19:36:48

Totally ridiculous sleeping in cars and only buying reduced food and holding £10 against you. Very measly. I’d be tempted to call him Scrooge each time he behaved badly. Have you sat and chatted to him?

Splitting 50/50 is less of an issue

sweetkitty Fri 06-Oct-17 19:37:01

Totally agree bin him now before it's too late. Imagine spending the next 20 years with him.

BarbaraOcumbungles Fri 06-Oct-17 19:37:05

I'd be saying tarabit!

Puffpaw Fri 06-Oct-17 19:37:05

Dh is sensible, I am profligate, but neither of us would ever have slept in car on purpose after a night out!

CurlyhairedAssassin Fri 06-Oct-17 19:37:32

I’m not a big spender and now like bargains but the examples you give are ridiculous. You would never be able to have kids together - god, the arguments!

thatdearoctopus Fri 06-Oct-17 19:37:33

Exactly, PNGirl. Look ahead and imagine being married to this guy and having a baby. You're on maternity leave. Do you really think he won't make you suffer for that? You'll have the added agony of having to ask for money and account for every penny you need to spend on the baby. And forget about any necessities, let alone luxuries, for yourself.

Run. Run far far away.

Queenofthedrivensnow Fri 06-Oct-17 19:38:50

Fanny gallops for sure with this stunner!

pictish Fri 06-Oct-17 19:39:13

Based on 3 alone, it's not sounding good.

Scattrercushion Fri 06-Oct-17 19:39:43

Yes. This will be the start and it will get worse. Life is too short for all that carry on.

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