Wasn't sure where to post but thought I would post here for traffic as am a regular on the relationships board.
I have a beautiful 9 (nearly 10) year old son. He has always been on the higher % of the centile for weight and height. Yesterday I weighed and measured him for forms for his football club. I was astonished to see he is 46kgs. He is very tall for his age, 149 cms. I calculated his BMI which I know don't take into account build, muscle etc but he is on the 96th Centile and classed as obese.
He is solid, but round his middle he holds fat. He is starting to get conscious of it and it slows him down in terms of sport. He is an active child, he does football twice a week, karate once a week and every lunchtime at school he plays football, as well as gymnastics twice a week.
He always has a good breakfast, has soup and a main cooked meal at school, and I pretty much always cook from scratch and healthily in the evenings. In the past he would fill out,shoot up and slim down and repeat. But this summer he has grown, but he still looks a little overweight.Ii wouldn't say he looks obese. He has his fathers build, whereas my other son is like me and a bit of a whippet (both DS's eat the same food, although DS1 will eat more at a sitting).
He doesn't have much in terms of fizzy drinks/ juice etc and mostly drinks water, he doesn't eat much sweets or biscuits either. I brought it up with him today in a round about way and he got upset and said I was telling him he was fat and to stop talking about it. I tried to discuss with him more in terms of health rather than appearance as I don't want him to have issues but at the same time I think we need to address it before it gets a bigger problem.
Any advice on how to deal with this with him? We did have an issue last year when he was having his school dinner but also buying stuff at school ( they have a card which is charged with money and should be for school meals only but he was chancing it and we found out, hasn't done it since as we can check what he is spending the money on).
Its a tricky one so any advice welcomed! I do think he might be starting puberty, but I don't want to fall into the trap of "he'll grow and slim down", "boys need fat to grow" etc and then get to a point its a much bigger problem. Thanks in advance.
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Dealing with overweight son.
pudding21 · 06/10/2017 10:27
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