Ive been with my partner 6 months. Hes 39 im 35. He is ultra organised in every way... immaculate house, hot on saving money and not wasting money. Pumps money into savings n shates etc... I turned up at his one night with food i'd brought in a 5p supermarket bag which he commented "i hope you didnt just pay for this".. ie wasting 5 p .. hes handed me reusable charity bags. Hates any waste.. Hes admitted his hobby is saving money and says hes a "couponer". He earns 50k.. no kids..puts 800 pounds a month away in a pension so he can retire aged 50. Keeps his house pristine in case one say he sells it he knows its immaculate and gets top price.
I own my own place, good job and my owm income. I have equity in my house and im careful with money but not to his extent... i enjoy life, spend money and have a few hundred on a crefit card and it doesnt bother me as i know will clear it.
Last night he said if we were married would i consider having my salary going into his account and he pays a bills, puts money into savings abd gives me an allowance etc.. i said.. hell no.. how about you give me ur salary etc.. his reply was hes better at finances than me.. (im a professional petson and earn decent money..own my own home and no major debts, but yeh i have the odd bit on a credit card!) .. he said that me paying a fiver on an over draft interest isnt good and if marrried hed like to make our money go further etc...
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Lovebeingamummy77 · 06/10/2017 00:08
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