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Ive Contacted EX and feel sick

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user1470296287 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:19:34

My Husband left me totally out of the blue last March, i have since sold everything gave him his share and started a new life.

I have not seen him for about 18 months and only had very minimal contact via email.
He said at the time he left he will Divorce me and pay for it when he has sorted himself out, but i have not had any idea when this will be.

This has left me feeling a sense of dread expecting the letter to be on the doormat everyday so i have today contacted him and asked very politely when can i expect him to be starting our Divorce.

I feel sick and all the old anxiety and hurt has come flooding back so I'm now sat waiting for a reply that i know will cause me to hurt all over again, i have cut contact and buried my head in the sand and have wondered why he has not been in to much of a rush to Divorce me, maybe at the back of my mind i was thinking maybe now he as realised he made a mistake, is this wishful thinking on my part ?.

Anyway don't really know what I'm asking with this post but would appreciate someone else's perspective and advice

Thankyou

Angrybird123 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:25:23

I suspect that most of the replies will say the same...you divorce him. The grounds are not important and have no bearing on any settlement going forward, though it sounds like that's all done anyway. You can't spend forever waiting for the latter. Take control and you will feel.immensely better. Take it from one who knows.

SarahH12 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:26:51

As angry has said, you can't sit around waiting for him. You deserve closure and to not be left in limbo sad Are you in a position to pay for the divorce?

category12 Thu 05-Oct-17 13:22:56

You're not far off 2 yrs separation - I'd wait until then and start the divorce yourself.

TheMerryWidow1 Thu 05-Oct-17 13:29:19

agree divorce him, don't let him have the upper hand. You won't get on properly until you sort it. Plus on a downer, he can still inherit if anything happened to you and you didn't have a Will.
Good luck.

PeterBlue Thu 05-Oct-17 13:40:38

Why on earth are you waiting for him to move. Start proceedings yourself and get it over with. The sooner you start the sooer it will be over and you can get your life back.

PeterBlue Thu 05-Oct-17 13:40:38

Why on earth are you waiting for him to move. Start proceedings yourself and get it over with. The sooner you start the sooer it will be over and you can get your life back.

PeterBlue Thu 05-Oct-17 13:40:38

Why on earth are you waiting for him to move. Start proceedings yourself and get it over with. The sooner you start the sooer it will be over and you can get your life back.

PeterBlue Thu 05-Oct-17 13:40:38

Why on earth are you waiting for him to move. Start proceedings yourself and get it over with. The sooner you start the sooer it will be over and you can get your life back.

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