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Anxiousspider · 05/10/2017 10:39

Hi everyone, I'm quite new to this so I hope I'm doing it right. I need some advice/reassurance. I have realised over the last few months that my husband is emotionally abusive and controlling. I've know he was controlling for a few years but it has all really hit home recently. I have 2 amazing friends who are supporting me through this as I plan to leave, but I'm really worried about what will happen when I go and how he will react (obviously he will be very angry). He has moved me and our 2 DCs far away from my family so I'm planning to go back and stay with relatives. I'm sure he'll figure out where we've gone pretty quickly. What can I do if he turns up banging on the door? Just phone the police? How did any of you deal with this situation. I don't want to be trapped in the house for the foreseeable future. Is he going to carry on trying to control me for the rest of my life?

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cherrycola2004 · 05/10/2017 14:52

No advice but bumping this thread up. If he comes to your relatives door then yes, do not open it and call the police.

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MrsBertBibby · 05/10/2017 15:23

Can you get a solicitor lined up for when you get there, so you are ready for ang proceedings?

How old are the children? How far is far?

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CockacidalManiac · 05/10/2017 16:02

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/helpline/

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Anxiousspider · 05/10/2017 16:32

DCs are 3 and 6. Planning on seeing a solicitor when we get there. Far as in 500 miles but still within the uk, not far enough to stop him driving there. Thanks for the woman's aid link I have contacted them, they said I could contact the police when we get there to let them know the situation. I'm probably overthinking things, I suppose I'll just need to deal with it as it happens. It's just so scary.

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MrsBertBibby · 05/10/2017 16:35

Are you moving to or from Scotland? Or within England and Wales, or within Scotland.

If you move the children without his agreement from one UK jurisdiction to another, any court proceedings will take place in the original jurisdiction (ie where he lives)

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Anxiousspider · 05/10/2017 17:35

Yes, I'm aware of that. I've been in touch with a local agency that should be able to put me in touch with a solicitor here.