Basically my ex (who lives 2hrs drive away) has asked again if she can move in with me and the kids for a few months until she can sort out a job and place near me and the kids. She has said her councillor thinks its a great idea and would be really help her sort her self out and be good for the kids. Would a councillor really recommend this?
I doubt it! If she's an ex they could have an educated guess that you might not want this. If she ended it with you and you want her back, it would be giving very mixed messages to you. If you ended it with her then why would you want to live with her again?
This woman is not your friend and never has been. She has been verbally, emotionally and physically abusive to you.
Even if she did find some sap and paid them £10 an hour to say "I think you should give it a go with your ex" do you really think she would have said "Oh by the way I'm a violent narcissist, still okay yeah?"
it may have been suggested as a financial option but only you know if it is suitable for your situation. could she move in with family or friends in the area? personally I disagree with the concept of people who are separated living together as I feel it is emotionally painful and not healthy to subject anyone to that (especially children who may secretly hope mummy and daddy get back together).
Well I can tell you all now the answer is no! The reason I ask the question is because I suspect she is lying to try and guilt me into letting her move in. She says she knows that I would never get back with her and it would be for only a couple of months. But I know her, bullshit would it be a couple of months. She wouldn't even try to move out. She at best just be trying to get me to provide for her like I had all our relationship at worst be plotting to get back with me after realising I was actually a pretty good catch. I don't what planet she is on, what I am getting out of effectively providing for my ex wife? So she gets a nice roof over her head (the spare room is lovely), food on the table, what incentive is there for her to get a descent job and move out of mine and the kids home? I maybe be soft but I'm not stupid.
I was more trying to work out if this could have been credible processional advice or just another minipulative ploy to pull at my heart strings so she can get back some of the life she lost?
Even if she was telling the truth, the suggestion of a third party is just that, a suggestion. The fact that you’ve spent a nano second questioning the validity of her statement, suggests that you still have a lot more work to do in detaching yourself from her.
She’s a n Ex and if you have children together then you need to limit contact to contact with them, shut down chit chat before it starts.
She’s not your friend, she’s a parasite looking for a host and you have a responsibility to not put yourself in a position/ mindset where you could be reinfected.
No she is full of sh*t. I have been talking to her parents (get on really well with them) for some fact checking. She is spinning them different stories to me on loads of things. They are pissed off too with lies. They say she lies to them about all sorts. She just can't stop lying to everyone. I don't get it how can a 30 yo woman with kids be like that? I honestly can't believe I was married to and loved that woman for 7 years.