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Anyone else hurt by ex husbands new baby? Feel so miserable.

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user1467480231 · 26/09/2017 20:47

My ex husband of 24 years had an affair and immediately got the girl pregnant. She now posts photos of him and the baby all over Facebook and I can't help but torture myself by looking at them (I know, I know, but I begged for another baby for 15 years and he said "no way"!).

Anyone else been in this situation where the pain is just hideous?

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Shayelle · 26/09/2017 21:11

No useful advice but Flowers for you. All you can do is stop looking at any of the pictures .. stop torturing yourself looking xx

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Winteriscomingneedmorewood · 26/09/2017 21:12

Just remember now she is his gf there is a vacancy for the ow. .
Flowers

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Shayelle · 26/09/2017 21:12

No useful advice but Flowers for you. All you can do is stop looking at any of the pictures .. stop torturing yourself looking xx

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caringdenise009 · 26/09/2017 21:15

I had no feelings for the ex at all but it was still a punch to me when I heard his new wife was pregnant so I know how you feel.

Take control and stop looking at the pictures. Hope for the sake of the baby that he will be a good dad. Concentrate on things that make you happy- like being able to sleep through the night, long lie ins etc that small kids make impossible.

With my ex this was the third baby by 3 different mother's, and I actually felt a bit sorry for him going backwards in life and having to do all the baby stuff again. The oldest was 17 at the time. He hasn't changed one bit in all these years, mine recently said he feels sorry for the youngest, that he shouldn't have to live with "those people" Angry

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Neverknowing · 26/09/2017 22:18

The best revenge is living a happy life. When he's up doing the night feed at 2am he'll be looking at your FB photos thinking the same.

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TheNaze73 · 27/09/2017 10:58

I think you need to stop looking. It's doing you no favours Flowers

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MagicFajita · 27/09/2017 11:04

Please help yourself and block them both op.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/09/2017 11:30

OP, it must be horrid for you and I can understand why you feel compelled to keep going back to look but it's only ever going to hurt you. Do you think you could give yourself just one more time to look (if you must) and then block both of them as other posters have suggested? It really would be the kindest thing you could do for yourself.

Winter that is one of the stupidest clichés ever and it's stated as fact all over MN when it isn't. It's so unhelpful however kindly meant.

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FizzyGreenWater · 27/09/2017 12:34

Poor woman - she has a cheat who doesn't want a child for her baby's father.

My crystal ball says that he'll be cheating or single again soon enough, and she'll be raising her baby alone.

You're better off!!

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Whoknows11 · 27/09/2017 12:45

I've been there!

Ex left me 7 months pregnant to then 12 months on get the ow pregnant! Bonkers!

Initially it was hard to take as he'd walked away from one baby before it was even born to then go and have another. The fact he'd be their for the ow when she gave birth and he was no where to be seen when our child was born, all those kinda things hurt. But then I felt pity. I pitied the 2 of them and the fact they'd given up their carefree lives to add another child into the mess they'd caused!

I also found similarities between myself and the ow in the fact she was copying me. To me that shows her insecurities from starting a relationship built on lies!

Be strong enough not to look and if you feel tempted busy yourself with something else!

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SleepFreeZone · 27/09/2017 12:47

He will no doubt cheat on her at some point. Let her enjoy her bubble while it lasts. They are in the honeymoon phase.

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Tearsoffrustration · 27/09/2017 17:53

The only thing that annoyed me more than anything is that he just did it - not living with her - not even properly together from what I've been told - where as my and DP are doing things 'right' and bought a house together & doing it up - which means I have to wait Grin

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ShitOrBust · 27/09/2017 17:59

He's in for a shock when he's awakened at all hours with a new baby. and the expense of it all. the gloss will wear off soon enough.
she's shacked up with a cheater. what he did for her, he'll do to her.

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