Me and (D)H are separated and have been since he cheated on me earlier this year. He's done lots of awful things since the separation but I've been reflecting on if he did awful things while we were still together.
Towards the end of our relationship we didn't have sex. We had a co-sleeping baby and a toddler who still woke in the night. Before the second DC was conceived, and afterwards I would wake up with him touching me between my legs. I would wake up to him doing it and would feel disgusted but physically turned on so I would carry on, sometimes to completion like that and sometimes it would become sex. Afterwards I would fee just disgusting and the next morning I would feel ashamed. When I would say to him that he did that the night before he would say "I thought you were awake" or "you put my hand there" and he would apologise. I'm now confused about if he did this knowing I was asleep but would wake up turned on. Or if it was as he said and I initiated it, or he thought I was awake.
Was this my fault? Or was it his? I think it was this that lead to me not wanting to have sex with him as sex felt dirty and left me feeling disgusting. Am I dirty and disgusting?
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Was this just "not very nice"?
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lifeislikeapileofshit · 26/09/2017 17:53
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