that's it in short. H decided he had enough. we are both working though me only p/t. both DC have SN and I can only stay in work because we make it work together. As a LP I could not work (combination of appointments, school refusals and have a DC with low functioning ASD who rarely sleeps).
His solution is that I just stop working and claim benefits (would get a combination of carers allowance, IS, housing & TC). I love my job and it really is the only 'break' in the neurotypical world I get. When he moves out, I want him to take a 50% share of the DC. to survive financially, I would need to increase my hours in any case. He earns peanuts and child support from him wouldn't be a lot. He says he will have them only over the weekend twice a months. after all he has to work.can he just wash his hands off his DC in that way?
it's still early days and he told me only over the weekend. I will get legal advice but it won't be the next few weeks. I am still shocked and bewildered and lost really. not sure if my thinking even makes sense....just put my pragmatic hat on for now.
any advice or food for thought appreciated.
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H announced he is leaving.... can I force a 50/50 share of the DC?
cornerstoned · 25/09/2017 20:52
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