Hello. Wondered if you could give me some advice please.
I'm in an unhappy marriage. We have 3 children. 20,16, 8. He's not done anything wrong, we just seem to have grown apart and I've felt like this for a couple of years. Earlier this year I met someone else and have continued to have an affair with this person. I know, I'm a slut. I'm not proud of my actions and I certainly didn't go looking for this to happen. He adores me, he can offer me love, and affection which I so desperately crave.
Husband is aware of our problems (but not the affair) and in his defence has tried to make me happy by giving me more affection. I just feel he does it because he knows that's what I crave rather than actually wanting to do it.
My problem is this....if I leave husband I'm walking into the unknown. New guy is a recovering alcoholic and has a colourful past history. He says that's all gone now as he's found the one he wants to be with and loves etc. I do love him but I'm scared in case he goes back to the alcohol when we are together and I wouldn't want my children around that. I'm also in a predicament because if I end it with him, I worry he will go back to the drink as his way of coping with losing me and then that will all be my fault. His family love me and want us to make a go of it. A life with him sounds great (from his words) but can I really trust someone like this? I know I'm not in a position to talk about trust. TIA
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Lostsoul19 · 25/09/2017 15:57
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