All,
Brief synposis to date
SS 11 lives with Biological mum and Nan, son has few issues, possibly slightly ASD never confirmed but many of the traits, mum suffers with ongoing mental health issues and nan believes she is his 2nd birth mum nan is 77
currently Son still not started high school as mum wants only one school failing two appeals she is refusing to send him to school, son wants to go to school, no teaching in place atm he just sits in front of tv or ipad all day and night pretty much for the last 10 weeks.
(this is a very very cut down version of events and is on the back of another post)
Anyhow, SS are involved and have been on and off for last 3 years and have now in a round about way suggested Dad doesnt take him back to mums after he came for his friday visit, they eluded that is this didnt happen longer term they would have apply to have him taken into care
dad did so and explained as best as possible to son, who quite understandably didnt take it very well at all, been honest to say we dont know how long for yet as mum needs to get better first and foremost and he needs to get stabilised and back into school
son says he understands all this and understands why its happening etc... (SS did interview 3 times that week), a bit later his nan calls dad going mad son has txt nan saying "please help me ", "help me", " help me" "I feel like im in a cage" "tell the people who are doing this to stop it happening " to put some perspective on this he did the exact same kind of message to his dad 3 weeks earlier after being grounded and having his xbox removed, dad got a txt saying "help me", "i feel like i am in prison" "help me dad"
Both Mum and Nan are also very understandably distraught about the situation, mum called dad begging and crying to speak to son, dad wants to let them speak to him but doesnt believe they will talk sensibly to him to make him feel safe as there txts have said tell us where you are and we will come and get you ? theyve also tried going through older step brother as they dont know where we live and son has just settled down a bit and stopped getting upset, so doesnt want him getting upset again but feels for mum and said its awaful he feels like crying of her but is the best for his son, even though he doesnt see it yet
dad has called SS this morning to explain they need to speak to mum and nan and they are now saying, hes now best seeking legal advice ? a mediator of some kind is needed to to get everyone on the same page for sons sake surely ?
dad has called solicitor who has said really he needs to go back to social services unless he wants to apply for a permanent custody order ?
its such a bloody mess any advice anyone ? thank you :-)
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SS advised Dad not to take his son back to mum and now doing slopey shoulders
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SMB21 · 25/09/2017 12:42
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