Well things are still not great, and I have almost made my mind up to go and do a share for a few months to get some space and headroom. (As I don't have kids at home anymore I have this option). Following on from finding out about past emotional disloyalties, I know have 2 or 3 episodes in last couple of weeks where DH has effectively started a row with me in front of others, first time was in front of our employee when he couldn't find something and was accusing me of moving it, he was really aggressive, I know he was stressed because he was on a deadline and we were going on holiday but it was nasty and he didn't really apologise. She also texted him and told him that he was aggressive and out of order and he said she had gone all 'women's rights ' and to mind her own f business, he didn't really apologise properly and he didn't text her back, second one today, he had a big disagreement with our19 year old son about something andsaid 'thanks for backing me up, you sit there like a stuffed lettuce' etc , as it was I backed neither of them up as I saw both points of view. I really really hate this kind of thing that it's ok to go off on one with others there. The other week on a business thing (we work together) he told me to mind my own business when others could hear. He isn't generally so unpleasant to other people but seems to think I am fair game these days and when I get assertive he doesn't seem to like that much either. I feel bad about wanting some space but think I am going to totally lose it at the moment if I don't. I really don't deserve any of this and I don't think he realises how bad and upsetting I find it or some weird part of him gets off on being an arse , he has tremendous road rage issues too. He never used to be as bad as this, I do care but don't feel relaxed and am beginning to hate weekends.
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