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Husband recently tried to commit suicide.

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TashARG Sun 24-Sep-17 10:02:08

My husband recently tried to commit suicide. I'm feeling very drained and constantly worry about him. He has taken a massive step and will be having his first CBT session on Monday. I just wondered if anyone has been in a similar situation and has any tips for supporting their other half through this. I'm experiencing a wide range of emotions – frustration, anger and sadness that he would do something like that. I do you want to support him but feeling very fragile at the moment. I have spoken to people about this and the reply is 'look after yourself'. Trying too but home isn't the most restful place to be at the moment 😢Any advice would be appreciated

userxx Sun 24-Sep-17 10:55:08

I can't offer practical advice as I've never been in your situation. Does your husband talk to you or does he keep things bottled up? How long has he been depressed for? Have you got support in real life?

opheliacat Sun 24-Sep-17 10:56:12

This is incredibly hard, OP. What led up to it?

TheVanguardSix Sun 24-Sep-17 10:59:58

God no advice really but huge hugs and flowers. That's as tough as it gets. Really tough. I'm wondering if you can find an online forum or RL support group for partners/spouses in your situation.

I know Samaritans can guide you, offer you support, and steer you towards RL support. Worth contacting.

winterwinter Sun 24-Sep-17 11:06:39

I am so sorry that you and DH are going through this. Has he been diagnosed with depression and is he on any medication? I know it’s tough but all you can really do is reassure him you are there for him and always available if he needs to talk. Seeking therapy is a positive step and I would definitely recommend medication if he isn’t already on any. flowers

TashARG Sun 24-Sep-17 12:44:33

Thanks all for your messages of support. He is talking to me about it but do need to chip away at him for information. It can be quite overwhelming. I'm talking to family and friends about it which does help momentarily but it does play on my mind a lot. We've recently relocated- I think he's always had underlying anxiety and a lot of change, not being happy at work etc has exacerbated it. He's not on medication but has CBT tomorrow.Think I will try an online forum as I don't personally know anyone who has been the person supporting. Thanks again everyone- appreciate it

Blossomdeary Sun 24-Sep-17 12:50:51

Number One - do not allow yourself a moment's guilt about this I worked in mental health and so often those closest to someone who attempts suicide feel guilty. It is not appropriate.

MIND have helplines, where hopefully you might find support: www.mind.org.uk/

This part of their website is for family and friends: www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/depression/for-friends-and-family/?o=9222#.Wceb0sZrzIU

I do hope that your OH will be well again soon. flowers

TashARG Sun 24-Sep-17 13:28:35

Thanks so much for the links smile

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