I left my ex some time ago now and am happy without him dragging me down.
There's a thread about it here : <a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?q=www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2900102-BFs-had-a-personality-transplant-Thoughts-please&sa=U&ved=0ahUKEwi41dXQwbvWAhVHZVAKHZJfAykQFggKMAM&client=internal-uds-cse&usg=AFQjCNG8Quq0-dmTFdXUGXfOFWrAAEjK1g" rel="nofollow noindex" target="_blank">www.google.com/url?q=www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2900102-BFs-had-a-personality-transplant-Thoughts-please&sa=U&ved=0ahUKEwi41dXQwbvWAhVHZVAKHZJfAykQFggKMAM&client=internal-uds-cse&usg=AFQjCNG8Quq0-dmTFdXUGXfOFWrAAEjK1g
Anyway, I've signed up to an OLD site, I have a profile name that's nothing like my own, I have private pictures (which he's not yet asked to see) and my profile describes me to a T.
So, imagine my surprise when my ex messaged me via the site, saying that said profile sounded amazing (of course it is, it's totally true 
) and he'd like to get to know me better. We've chatted for a couple of hours and my responses have all been truthful. He's bullshitting a little bit.
Then I thought back over the last few months, where his phone was never out of his sight, he'd take it with him when he went out of the room, he'd always leave it lying face down and would sometimes fret quietly if he had to hand it to me for any reason.
And this may or may not be coincidental 
but he has an open FB profile, but his friends list is hidden. But women, who live miles away, with no familial or friends links, were liking his (boring) pictures and comments. When I asked, he'd always just brush it off and say it was someone he'd known for years that he still talks to occasionally.
Im not wasting any emotional energy on being angry about what he may have been up to. It was my choice to leave. Im so glad that I did. I dont think he actually met any of these women IRL, they all seem to live at least 200 miles away and his car and van would never make it that distance. And he's too tight to pay for the fuel
Is this too good an opportunity to miss? I could have hours of fun with this. The opportunity to lead him on and have a chance at giving him a big let down and watching the fallout from a safe distance is almost too good to resist ...
And its somewhat satisfying to note that all his profile pics make him look just like the scruffy no-hoper that he is. What WAS i thinking?? 
I asked him what the competition was like and he said there wasn't any at the moment ...
I met up with his mum and his sister this week, he's telling them that he really misses me. Oh well, never mind, there there.
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Should I catfish the ex? He's contacted me via OLD site
AllT0rque · 23/09/2017 16:06
Hmmm ...maybe it would be better to just blow him out of the water now and tell him who I am instead.
Shame, as he's actually making an effort for a change
Have you asked him how long he's been single and why he split up with his ex? 
Of course, Kitty. "long story" was the reply
I said my reason was because I was tired of being the only one making an effort and being snarled at by a grumpy twit - no reaction
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