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Partner got a custodial sentence today

190 replies

Blushingm · 22/09/2017 16:05

And I’m sad

I know he has to face up to his actions and take the consequences but I’m sad and I’m going to miss him

OP posts:
Moanyoldcow · 22/09/2017 16:07

How long will he be gone for? I'm sorry you're in this position - it must be really hard.

Hiphopopotamus · 22/09/2017 16:08

For what sort of crime? Was it violent?

TittyGolightly · 22/09/2017 16:11

I have a friend - we sleep together. I'm sure he uses me but I can't seem to stay away.

He has a criminal record, is on benefits, is currently banned from driving but drives anyway, drives drunk, smokes too much, drinks too much, takes drugs. Sometimes he says he sees us together, other times he says he doesn't want to be with me, before Christmas he slept with his ex from 5 years ago, he chats to women on pof and for all I know meets up with them.

This guy?

Blushingm · 22/09/2017 17:07

Driving while disqualified - 24 weeks

Yeah - that guy.........we got together in the end

OP posts:
Ginmakesitallok · 22/09/2017 17:08

God he's a catch isn't he??

Chickenagain · 22/09/2017 17:09

Are you winding us up? What will you miss? I would take the opportunity to clear your headspace and allow a grown up into your life. Im sorry to sound harsh, but he sounds like white noise.....

Glowsticksforthehoechicks · 22/09/2017 17:10

I started a thread the other day about my partner in jail , I'm sorry to hear your going through this also xx

Myheartbelongsto · 22/09/2017 17:11

His character doesn't mean the op's feeling are any less!

I'll he get temporary release, has he been to prison before?

Mintychoc1 · 22/09/2017 17:14

I'm sorry you're sad OP, but I have to say I'm relieved there's one less drunk driver on the roads for a few months. Will he learn from this, do you think?

Adora10 · 22/09/2017 17:15

How can you miss someone who treats you so badly, I never get these comments, he sounds unbelievably wrong!

Moanyoldcow · 22/09/2017 17:18

He doesn't sound like a total catch, OP... I'm not minimising your upset or your feelings but I think you should explore why you're entangled with such an unpleasant sounding man.

Anecdoche · 22/09/2017 17:22

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Fekko · 22/09/2017 17:23

24 weeks to get him out of your system.

I missed my toenail when it got bashed, went black and fell off. I got over it.

CockacidalManiac · 22/09/2017 17:24

He sounds like a proper tosser

PurpleDaisies · 22/09/2017 17:26

I agree with everyone, why do you want to be with him?!

Bluntness100 · 22/09/2017 17:26

Well ok then. Confused

supersop60 · 22/09/2017 17:29

he sounds lovely - I'm not surprised that you're missing him.
Your feelings are real, but they are misplaced. Don't you deserve better than this?

ILoveMillhousesDad · 22/09/2017 17:30

So what are his good points?

Crispsheets · 22/09/2017 17:31

You must have very low self esteem if you want a future with that.

stitchglitched · 22/09/2017 17:33

Sounds like prison is exactly where he belongs. I hope you haven't got any children being exposed to this prince.

diddl · 22/09/2017 17:33

What are his good points??!!

CosmicPineapple · 22/09/2017 17:34

Why in gods name are you with him?

Have some self respect.

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Isadora2007 · 22/09/2017 17:35

My lovely teenage dd is missing her boyfriend who will be away for a few months as he is serving the UN in the army. I feel for them.

You and your waste of taxpayers money? Not so much. Use your time to go on a freedom course as I c an only assum there is abuse in action for you to remain with such a piece of...

Notears · 22/09/2017 17:35

You chose him as your partner?

Notevilstepmother · 22/09/2017 17:36

I'm sorry you will miss him, but I think it's best he is away for a while to think about what he has done.

Meanwhile give yourself a week or so to feel sad, and then you need to do some serious thinking of your own.

Is he ever going to change? Really? Is this what you want in life?

My experience (professional not personally) with young criminal males is that some who were right tearaways at 15 (drugs, driving, prison etc) did change for the better and sort their lives out. However I saw a really clear cut off point. Those who were going to change did so by 19 years old. Those who were still acting like this at 18 and 19 carried on into adulthood. Something to consider.

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