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My partner is going to get us evicted because of dog mess in the garden

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SomeRandomGuy · 22/09/2017 14:13

Hey all,

Long story short been with my partner 9 years. 5 years ago we were approached and asked if we wanted to rescue to staffies. I'm not a dog person, never have been, but my partner fell in love with them. So, I agreed to introduce dogs into our family provided the dogs care was down to her.

She agreed.

Fast forward 1 year later and our garden is full of dog poop. Every time I asked her to clean it she would complain her back hurts, or she's had a busy day. She doesn't work, and about all she does is walk down the road to get food and take the kid to school which is around the corner. She sometimes washes up and cleans the house but most times she's watching Jeremy Kyle or sleeping.

She wasn't always like this. But the past 2 years she has been.

We got evicted form our private rented place because of the dog mess. Neighbors complained to our landlord and the landlord warned us to clean the dog mess. My partner done nothing about it.

We got a new property and I begged her to keep ontop of the dog mess. She said she would. But this didn't happen. Been here 2 years and she has cleaned the garden twice.

We had rats living in our entry because of the poop and next door have rats too because of the mess in our garden. Today the rat man from the council came to install rat traps in her garden and took photos of our garden.

I urged my partner to sort the garden out but it's just exploded in arguments. It's my fault apparently for not helping her around the house. The arguments are silly.

But, we're now about to be evicted if this isn't sorted. She's still sat downstairs watching TV not even interested.

We have a 10 year old, and he's got to go through all this.

I called the council myself and explained that I don't want to be evicted and that the problem is my partner doesn't want to clean up her dogs mess.

Some might say why don't I clean the mess. I'm not a dog person. I puke even going near poop. Call me a whimp, but that's one of the reasons why I refuse to have dogs. The agreement was I'd be happy with them in our family so long as she keeps ontop of them.

They sit in their crate all day. One limps because they rarely go for walks. I begged her to give them to someone who can look after them but once again another argument.

Please , any advice? I can't even speak to her about this calmly without her kicking off and blaming me in some way.

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Justonemorepleasethen · 22/09/2017 14:15

Rehome the dogs and leave your partner

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Adora10 · 22/09/2017 14:18

Wish I knew your address, I'd report you to RSPCA, disgusting, and disgusting you are going along with it.

Get rid of her if you don't want to continue to be known as the disgusting neighbours from hell!

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BadHatter · 22/09/2017 14:19

Get rid of the fanny lodger.

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Ceto · 22/09/2017 14:20

There is obviously no sensible reason for you two being together. So do what Justonemore suggests.

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LineysRun · 22/09/2017 14:21

You will have to pay someone to clean it up, just like the Council would have to.

And for God's sake get those dogs rehomed.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 22/09/2017 14:21

In the immediate term, you are going to have to get to grips with your issue about dog poo and get it cleaned. Wear gloves, overalls and a facemask if necessary and get it cleaned. It is ridiculous to get evicted because neither you nor she will clear it up. Could you afford to get a specialist cleaning company in to do it as a one off?

Once that's sorted you need to look at your relationship. What has happened to trigger the change in your partner? What happened two years ago? She sounds possibly depressed to me, the sleeping and not being bothered about anything are possibly symptoms of that.

Then the dogs. They need to have their environment improved or to be re-homed. Could you get the RSPCA involved yourself to talk to her about the dreadful life they have at the moment? Could you find someone to take them for a walk regularly?

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Lislou123 · 22/09/2017 14:22

Your dogs deserve better and actually so do you ! rehome the poor dogs they don't deserve such mis treatment, and as for your partner tell her to sort herself out or leave her

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 22/09/2017 14:22

She sounds lazy rather than depressed, I think.

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MissWilmottsGhost · 22/09/2017 14:23

You need to have the dogs rehomed, they are neglected Sad

Best you also rehome your partner.

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SomeRandomGuy · 22/09/2017 14:23

I am not going along with this. Not at all. We've been arguing all day constantly because of this. I am waiting for my mother to pick me up and I'm going to be staying with her.

I am trying to talk some sense into her to get her to act now before she loses this property. I hate this myself.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 22/09/2017 14:23

it's only been the last 2 years the OP says though, which means for 8 plus years she wasn't like this. Why the change?

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Notreallyarsed · 22/09/2017 14:24

She’s cleaned the garden once a year for the last two years? That’s disgusting! You need to rehome the dogs, and leave your partner. Be careful where you rehome them as staffies can be targets for scumbags (I say that as a very protective staffie owner), don’t sell them online, call the RSPCA and get them to find somewhere suitable. Until then, I think you’re going to have to cover your mouth and nose with something and just get shovelling to save your child from becoming homeless.
Both of you need to get a grip, there’s a child in the middle of this who has already lost their home once because of laziness.

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 22/09/2017 14:24

So you're leaving your child there?

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AssassinatedBeauty · 22/09/2017 14:25

There's no point arguing about it. She either won't or can't clean it up. So you will have to or you and your child will lose another home. Can you afford to get a one off clean?

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PepperedLife · 22/09/2017 14:25

I can understand the puking as I wouldn't / couldn't if you paid me. Which is why I don't have pets.

But to let it get to the stage of a second eviction is partly on you too.

And as for the limping dogs and kept in cages words fail me. Poor dogs. Sad

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Cambionome · 22/09/2017 14:26

What about your child? What is happening to him?

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Adora10 · 22/09/2017 14:26

They were evicted from previous property.

Best thing you can do OP is report her for animal cruelty and neglect. She sounds vile.

You are wasting your time talking to her, this is who she is, a person that gives not a fuck about the welfare of animals or what crap she forces neighbours to endure.


They sit in their crate all day. One limps because they rarely go for walks.

Tell her you are done talking, get yourself your own place.

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ParanoidBeryl · 22/09/2017 14:26

Is there a breed society that would help you rehome the dogs?

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FirstMumToBe · 22/09/2017 14:26

I'd just ring RSPCA anonymously and get the dogs taken away or they will at least tell your partner to sort dog's environment and walking situation out pronto if no change they will then be removed!

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CrochetBelle · 22/09/2017 14:26

You let your child lose their previous home because you wouldn't just pick up some dog shit?

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Finola1step · 22/09/2017 14:27

What about the ds?

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Popchyk · 22/09/2017 14:28

It is just a total lack of respect from her. To you, the landlord, the neighbours and the dogs themselves. It is unacceptable to expose her child to such an unhygienic environment and to repeated evictions because of it. Horrible to subject your child to that.

Is the child yours? It is just that you say you've been together 9 years and have a 10 year old.

If so, I'd be looking to get a new place with the 10 year old. Seriously. If you go to your mum's then you must take the child with you. You have been passive and exposing the child to this for far too long.

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OutToGetYou · 22/09/2017 14:29

Well, whoever is rehoming them to you needs their head examined - she doesn't walk them, doesn't clean up after them? She is neglecting the dogs if nothing else.

I couldn't stay with someone like this, I'd leave.

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 22/09/2017 14:31

But you live there too - you are both complicit. If you've known for two years that this is going on, it's as much your fault as hers.

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