In a nutshell I had an affair and my husband and me split.
Amongst all this my closest friends
admittedly found it hard as they socialised with my ex and me...
Basically I found the whole thing hugely stressful as you do (never once denying it wasn't of my doing) and possibly I was acting a little out of character looking back....
However these friends very unexpectedly were not really there for me. They still see my ex and have been horrible to me to others and it has hurt me unbelievably. I have had counselling but it still plays on my mind a lot.
My "friends" feel hurt by me?! And keep playing the victim. They are manipulating people at work.
My one friend and I were almost
Reconciling then I think the other
Was jealous
And therefore shit stirred and causes so much pain to the other (for selfish gain I can only assume)
Everyone else has stayed out of this mess but they haven't.
It's all my fault blah blah blah (which i have never denied) but they can't seem to move on. It's just weird and is horrid for our other colleagues )who are like "it's ur life etc....."
My heart was broken by it but finally coming to terms with the loss of them. It was so unnecessary of them to get involved and make
Things much harder for me. When I've said that all
I get is "it's not all about you" which i know. They just don't get the point that they should have stayed out and just been a friend to me through a pants time.
Doesn't help as well that my ex has manipulated them to hurt me as I hurt him.
Has anyone had the loss of close friends during a bad break up?? And how did u cope. I feel it's similar
To grief.....
I miss them but now feel pity also now.....felt like posting this
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Friends took sides with my ex.....devastated
3539jaj · 21/09/2017 21:19
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