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Almost had to strangle DH last night.

(28 Posts)
Kmvoorheis21 Thu 21-Sep-17 14:10:08

Honestly, he sustains an injury at one of our races last weekend and asks that I drive for the evening. Our first date night of the season. All went fine on the way there and the actual date night went well. As soon as we were back in the car after the fact it all started going down hill. I was hungry which was problem number one. Me being hangry is never a good thing for those around me. Him being a backseat driver is also not good for either of us. He really only does it when we drive the new car. In my truck he couldn't care less how I drive. It drove me crazy listening to him constantly making little comments about my speed, too fast, too slow, why are you lowing down for this curve you can make it. Why are you yelling at the lark in front of he can't hear you anyway. Well because he is driving like a moron and honestly I would like to yell at you but I know that wouldn't do me any good. So aside from yelling at other drivers that, who knew couldn't hear me, I sat there silently and tried not to pull over and strangle him. Then once we were finally home he couldn't understand why I was annoyed and went almost immediately to bed. Does anyone else have this problem? This is my rant for the day.

bookwormsforever Thu 21-Sep-17 14:12:56

YABU for using 'moron' and saying you'd like to strangle your dh in the same post. Not funny.

BitOutOfPractice Thu 21-Sep-17 14:13:31

There's quite a lot of your post I don't understand eg what races? Is there a dating "season"? What is a lark (apart from a bird)?

I do know that you'll be accused of stealth boasting (new car) and told off for making light of domestic violence (strangulation). You will also be told to LTB

BitOutOfPractice Thu 21-Sep-17 14:13:58

I also don't really know why you posted?

TheNext Thu 21-Sep-17 14:17:12

I hate seeing thread titles which "joke" about domestic violence. Makes no difference which gender is perpetrating it.

Xeneth88 Thu 21-Sep-17 14:17:13


Don't say Moron it's a vile disablist word.

MistyMinge Thu 21-Sep-17 14:17:21

Are you based in the US?

Notearsgoodbye Thu 21-Sep-17 14:17:44

Don't understand what the first date of the season is. Do you mean you went on a night out with your husband? Also thought a lark was a bird.

PinkMoony Thu 21-Sep-17 14:19:50

You had a date night but didn't eat?

Don't joke about domestic violence

gamerchick Thu 21-Sep-17 14:23:06

Man this place. Fucking hell nobody is allowed to vent anymore I see hmm

I'm with you OP, I would have told him to shut the fuck up or he can get out and walk.

Maybe next date night leave the car at home and get a taxi.

ParsnipLeekAndLemonSoup Thu 21-Sep-17 14:33:23

Our first date night of the season


AnchorDownDeepBreath Thu 21-Sep-17 14:35:01

You had a date night but didn't eat?

That was my first thought too...

I get hangry. I make sure I eat before it happens; if at all possible; and I feel very bad about it!

Northend77 Thu 21-Sep-17 14:38:14

So if he hadn't have sustained an injury then you'd have expected him to drive and that would have been fair (sounds like you having to drive was just the start of the things you were pissed off about). The rest of your rant - I am just confused!

InsomniacAnonymous Thu 21-Sep-17 14:43:59

Bizarre thread with a horrible title.

Chewbecca Thu 21-Sep-17 14:45:28

So it was ok for you to expect him to drive but not ok for you to drive?
Why not drive if your DH is injured? I would hope my DH would for us if I was.

Sniping about your driving though is v annoying.

And I don't understand the rest.

Notearsgoodbye Thu 21-Sep-17 14:56:31

Tbh I took your thread title literally and wondered why you nearly had to strangle your husband.

MatildaTheCat Thu 21-Sep-17 15:09:56

I've no idea what you are on about but last time my dh critiqued my driving, whilst doing him a favour, I stopped and asked him to get out.

Choccyhobnob Thu 21-Sep-17 15:11:06

I'm just a bit confused!

RB68 Thu 21-Sep-17 15:15:55

I don't think eating would have made a difference. I would have pulled over stopped the car and asked him if he would prefer to walk. Have done it too and the passive driving has stopped. Although i find myself commenting on his these days as its so poor!!! lol.

KingLooieCatz Thu 21-Sep-17 15:16:12

Rant - okay.

Jokey threats to strangle partner on the relationships board - poor taste.

RB68 Thu 21-Sep-17 15:17:22

oh and get a car that beeps at everything - DH drives and the beepers go off all the time - he says I don't understand why does it do that blah blah blah - one look and I just say because you drive too close and accelerate too hard when setting off. So even the car has a go at him!!!

ParadiseCity Thu 21-Sep-17 15:19:31

My husband is a shit passenger. I don't drive him anywhere. I think this is the key to our happiness.

CamelliaSinensis35 Thu 21-Sep-17 17:02:55

If moron is now considered offensive, are we similarly not to use the terms idiot or imbecile? As these words also had a medical root historically? OP do ignore the 'professionally offended' brigade,not everyone here is so touchy. Hope the rant helped - throw him out and and make him walk next time!

sourgrapes28 Thu 21-Sep-17 17:36:24

How do people not understand the thread! It's pretty bloody simple. Moron is probably a bit much but I get the rest.

FatherBartyDunne Thu 21-Sep-17 17:45:30

Me being hangry is never a good thing for those around me.

Well because he is driving like a moron and honestly I would like to yell at you but I know that wouldn't do me any good

It sounds like you were very hard company that night.

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