In a nutshell I've been seeing a man for a year who I've known for a few years..When we first got together last year he made it clear he didn't want a relationship as his last relationship had ended badly and he lost his home etc..over time we've acted like a couple when we are together (it's a long distance thing) he holds my hand etc and always calls every day.
I've met and socialised with all his family and even met his long time female best friend who even said she knew I meant a lot to him and she'd love to see us together properly
He constantly tells me he cares and that he wished he could offer more yet when I go home..he seems to step back and phone conversations are just regular chat..he doesn't imply that he misses me yet when I go there he tells me that he has to put me to the back if his mind a lot because a relationship isn't what he wants right now but that he he always misses me and wishes I was there.
Recently he met a woman locally who he has started meeting most elves in the pub.. going out and about with and chatting to late at night..she has ME and doesn't work so is frequently up in the early hours. Quite often he'll hang up to me saying he's going to sleep but I'll see in the morning he was online on what's app for a good couple of hours afterwards.He recently added her on fb and now she literally comments on everything he puts in such a way as to imply that they are close. He's told me he's confided in her about his breakdown and that she's been supportive and that he doesn't find her attractive but is glad to finally have a friend locally..however..he admitted he hadn't mentioned me to her..
We had a big row about it the other night and he told me that I'm being unreasonable and that he's lonely and needs friends but it feels like ages stepping into my shoes and also I think she is reading a lot into the friendship too.
This weekend he unexpectedly told me that he loved me so much.which shook me..as he's never said that before but he reiterated that he can't be in a relationship as he needs to concentrate on getting himself sorted etc but that I have no idea how much so mean to him..
Then the next day he went straight to the pub to spend the evening with her..Im at the stage where I'm really wondering if I should just walk away..
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Should I walk away..
Sad1974 · 17/09/2017 15:36
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