Hey all. I appreciate this is going to get me words that I truly deserve to hear insofar as I've messed up baldly.
I have possibly made the woman I have been seeing pregnant.
She is adamant it's her husbands but they have been trying unsuccessfully to conceive for 4 years and the dates of conception match perfectly with when we were meeting and having sex 3-4 x a week, often multiple times per meeting. She told me he is an alcoholic and profuse smoker who takes no interest in her.
She has told him it's his baby and cut me out of the picture, she still messages me and calls from time to time. He is over the moon.
I need the truth and so have requested we do a paternal non invasive DNA match which she reluctantly has agreed to. However she said either way she would expect me to be silent.
I'm not sure my head can handle this as I may have a child being brought up by another man who doesn't know that the little one isnt his. What sort of a person would be able to do that.
She is scared I will do something to jepordise her relationship (more than we already have) but I'm not like that, in my eyes we made a mistake and we have to be truthful.
I'm no benchmark for moral compass but I want to do the right thing.
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I've messed up so badly
JustNormal1 · 27/08/2017 19:40
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