Hi all
In the middle of separating from husband. Living separate lives, sleeping in separate rooms, no sex, but under the same roof. He can't afford to move out at the moment. Have children together. He has a drink problem which he refuses to get help for. I Am often on the receiving end of verbal abuse / foul mouthed abuse. A particular hobby of mine he hates me taking part in too. Jealous ??? Separating is at my request and I don't see any way back from it. Wedding rings have been off for months although he's still wearing his.
A while ago I became friends with someone and then more than friends and turns out he was a player and a bit of a narc. Blowing hot and cold, pulling me in then dropping me again etc. Been very hard to get over him as I had strong feelings for him . Have posted about this elsewhere.
Anyway a couple of weeks ago while crying my tears and generally feeling terrible about this narc player a friend of a friend messaged me on facebook just chatting (he's also into the same hobby as me) so had lots of common ground on which to talk. He doesn't know or know of narc man. Anyway long story short he's asked me out for a drink and a meal this weekend. Mutual friends say he is nice and defo single. I have been upfront that husband still lives under my roof and the basic outline of the situation without going into too much detail. Hes fine with this. As it's getting nearer I am starting to get cold feet / have wobbles. Don't have feelings for soon to be xdh but anxious in case he's another player, doesn't like me, just nerves. Worried in case he drinks a lot.
Help. What do I do. Haven't been on dates for near on 20 years and that was only with husband. Just feel.scared about everything. Don't want to project this / hint at any of this. Any advice welcome
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Rejectedwoman · 23/08/2017 13:27
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