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Slight red flag??

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DianaMitford · 21/08/2017 13:12

My lovely sister is in a new relationship after years of being single. However she's now told me that he hadn't wanted her to tell me about him because he "likes the relationship being secret". All my spidey senses were tingling when she told me but is this me overreacting??

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KatharinaRosalie · 21/08/2017 13:15

Can you think of any nice reasons why someone would like to keep their relationship secret?

No, me neither.

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Shoxfordian · 21/08/2017 13:15

Why does he want it to be secret? Is it so his wife doesn't find out? Very suspicious

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DianaMitford · 21/08/2017 13:18

Exactly Kath SadBut she's really into him.

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Mrscropley · 21/08/2017 13:19

Could you call round unexpectedly when he is there?

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DianaMitford · 21/08/2017 13:20

Orb she's fine with not telling people because he says that he's told his parents about her. Who knows....

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Redcrayons · 21/08/2017 13:21

Do they work together? it's quite common to keep it underneath wraps in that situation

Or am I grasping at straws?

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HerOtherHalf · 21/08/2017 13:22

Of course it's a red flag, there is no reasonable explanation.

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Mrscropley · 21/08/2017 13:22

How does she know his dps know though?

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KatharinaRosalie · 21/08/2017 13:23

what is he saying is the reason for the secrecy?

OK I could understand working together and not going public until it's serious, or similar. But you would have mentioned that.

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OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 21/08/2017 13:23

You know those big flags they have at festivals? It's one of them. He's not single.

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c3pu · 21/08/2017 13:39

Hmmmmm, I'd say it would be ok to keep things quiet until thing are established, as I wouldn't want to be gushing about the new relationship only for it fall over as they often do in the early days... How long have they been seeing each other?

If it's been a little while then public acknowledgement is perfectly reasonable thing.

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BitchQueen90 · 21/08/2017 13:42

There's a difference between keeping a relationship private and a relationship secret. Unless he has DC and doesn't want them knowing about his relationship yet?

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FuckYouLinda · 21/08/2017 13:52

It screams "married" Or "out on bail"

I'd be doing a bit of discreet digging to see what he's hiding. DP and I wanted to keep our relationship low-key but we didn't keep it this big mad secret. There is a difference.

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Mrscropley · 21/08/2017 14:11

She should be Googling his name!!

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ravenmum · 21/08/2017 14:15

she's fine with not telling people because he says that he's told his parents about her.
So he wants to keep it a secret but has told his parents about it, so he says?
Red flag, alarm bells and flashing light.

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DianaMitford · 21/08/2017 14:37

It doesn't look good SadI knew you lot would tell me straight.
They don't work together, met through Tinder. I think he lives with his parents....Oh and I've just remembered that he only comes to her house, never his own.

But she called him reall

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DianaMitford · 21/08/2017 14:38

Sorry posted too soon!

She called him really late last n

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DianaMitford · 21/08/2017 14:40

Arghhhhh!!

Called him late last night and they were talking for ages. Would he be able to do that if he's married??

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DancingLedge · 21/08/2017 14:43

If he's a good liar, 'talking to an upset mate ' yeah.

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DianaMitford · 21/08/2017 14:56

I did try and talk to her about it last night but she wasn't having any of it.

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RhubardGin · 21/08/2017 15:02

How long have they been dating? Are they officially boyfriend/girlfriend?

I can slightly understand his reasoning if they have just started dating and he wants it to remain private.

If they have been dating for a few months that's a red flag.

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FizzyGreenWater · 21/08/2017 15:16

He's married
He's married
He's oh so oh so married

Not single
Not single
Because he's really married

My new song for the day :)

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c3pu · 21/08/2017 15:41

Called him late last night and they were talking for ages. Would he be able to do that if he's married??

If his wife had already gone to bed, yes!

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