Have been in a bit of an on/off relationship for the past few years. Genuine feelings there but also genuine issues. He is a woeful communicator for one, shuts down/storms off rather than talk about stuff. He was also starting to get a bit lazy, no thoughtful gestures, we never went away for as much as a night, he never texts me when he had his DC, he was getting a bit selfish in bed (sex has always been fantastic before). And this is when we only see each other once or twice a week so should still be fun.
I told him a few weeks ago that I wasn't happy with how things were, instead of our relationship moving forwards it was starting to feel stagnant and a bit pointless. He said he was surprised but let's find a way to "move forwards together".
Since then, nothing. I've had a manic few weeks with family visiting, my DC have been busy and I became extremely unwell for a week. Didn't hear a peep from him. I know this goes both ways but tbh I was expecting him to make some sort of effort so wasn't keen on texting him first (as a I have always done in the past) Not game-playing, just no energy left to try. I'm feeling loads better now and am quite happy spending my child free time on my own. Have sorted my garden, joined a gym and am generally quite content.
As I said, not a peep from him. This has happened before. The combination of his poor communication skills and male pride make him unable to extend the olive branch. Last time it happened I cracked and got in touch and he leapt at the chance to meet up/reconcile. This time I just cannot be arsed. I'm in my mid 30's, he's in his 40's. I just do not have time or energy for this nonsense anymore.
I've deleted his number from my phone. A small part of me is tempted to send one last text along the lines of 'Just to make it clear, I'm done now. Your complete inability to communicate like an adult is not something I'm willing to put up with anymore.' and then blocking him. This isn't me trying to engage him btw, more a way of drawing a line under the whole thing and not spending the next few weeks semi-wondering if he'll message me.
Text or just leave things as they are?
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Do I send one final message to formally end it or just leave things now?
JesusTapdancingChrist · 21/08/2017 08:44
Message received Shatners
I am about 80/20 leave it/text so it's only in moments of weakness that I'm tempted but I need the kick up the arse to make it 100/0.
You're all ace, thank you 
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That's a good idea Soda (would murder one right now btw).
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Yep fuck him. And you could do the two fingered fuck you dance....think the caravan scene but whilst doing the two fingered salute
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