So I've been talking to this guy for a few months now on WhatsApp he's always been honest about the fact that he has a gf and that he's just looking for a friend's with benefits type thing. Well we arranged to hook up and then I turned him down the day he was meant to come to my house, I had an attack of concience and told him I couldn't go through with it. He told me his relationship wasn't a happy one and that what his girlfriend didn't know wouldn't hurt her. I still said no. Didn't hear from him much after this apart from the odd message to see how were both doing. It was brought up again recently and know I honestly don't know what to do. He's a very attractive man and I can't stop thinking about what it would be like to sleep with him. But I also know I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt of knowingly hurting somebody else. Any advice ???
To possibly speak to him and tell him you guys either be friends or you stop talking to him. To even consider sleeping with a man who has a girlfriend (even if it's not a happy one) is just vile! Remember karma is a b** and will come and bite you on the a** if you do go through with it. Remember you to could be that girlfriend who "doesn't have to know" that her boyfriend is sleeping around with some other chick.
(I would also be outing him to her as I think she has a right to know that he's sleeping around- I don't subscribe to the whole 'it's none of my business' thing, I think it's common decency to tell someone if they're being treated like that)