Can't stop thinking about someone else..

[beautyschooldropoutt]

I'm 24 and have been with my dp for nearly 4 years, we have 1 dd together. Before I met dp I used to chat and occasionally meet up with a guy who lived in another town. I don't have any contact with him anymore, the last time I did was nearly a year ago when me and dp split for 5 months. This past year all I have done is think of him.

Me and dp have a comfortable relationship, we both work and have money to take our dd on lovely holidays abroad, and we're generally ok other than the odd bicker. We don't have half as much sex as we used to, about once a month and if I'm honest I don't enjoy it that much when we do. We have a laugh together, spend a lot of time together and have been talking about saving up to buy a house.

I have known other man for years, have never done anything other than kissed. He makes me laugh, we always end up having contact if we are single. Something pulls me towards him and I don't know what/why, he's not the dream man, I don't know how he'd be in a relationship or even if he'd want to be in one with me. I can't stop thinking about him, I even dream about him .

I'm torn between actually finishing my relationship and getting back in touch with him, but of course there is the risk of losing everything I have now, for someone who might not even want anything serious. I also think oh life is to short your young take the risk. It's either a nice comfortable stable'ish relationship, for maybe just a bit of fun if he didn't want anything serious?

Has anyone else been in this situation? Wwyd?

[scoobydoo1971]

This sounds like a crush in your head that is triggered by boredom with your current relationship. If you were just dating then perhaps you could act on impulse, ditch your man and chase the other guy. However, you have a child together and breaking up to be with someone else has the potential to get very bitter and resentful. You may be disappointed to find the other guy is not what you expected from a boyfriend, or he may not be willing to have a serious relationship with you. You are right in that life is short, but it is not a question of just that when you have a stable life together and a child.
I think you should focus on fixing what is wrong with your current relationship (i.e. the boredom) rather than having a fling with someone else. You must have had a passionate relationship together as some point to have made that child and decided to become a couple.

[QuiteLikely5]

What scooby said with bells on

[SandyY2K]

You need to work on improving your relationship if you love your DP. Express your needs in intimacy and see how to make it more frequent.