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My husband demanded our marriage certificate

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EasyToEatTiger · 18/08/2017 13:57

I told him it was with my solicitor. It is. Needless to say he is in a rage. I really don't know what he is thinking. He is sulking for Britain and on the edge of exploding. As always there is someone else to blame. There is always someone to blame. How he lives so unaccountably beats me. He is a nutter.

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TroysMammy · 18/08/2017 13:58

Why does he need it?

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EasyToEatTiger · 18/08/2017 13:59

He has also been raging at the dogs and the chickens.

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coriliavijvaad · 18/08/2017 14:01

Are you safe OP? It doesn't sound like it. Is there a women's refuge near you?

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TheFaerieQueene · 18/08/2017 14:01

Why can't he order his own copy online?

Sorry you are living with an arse.

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EasyToEatTiger · 18/08/2017 14:04

He wants it so he can be in control. While we sort out a divorce he wants to cause me harm. That's why he wanted the certificate.

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persephone2013 · 18/08/2017 14:46

A prospective petitioner needs the Marriage Certificate in order to file for divorce. A copy can always be obtained.

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FizzyGreenWater · 18/08/2017 15:05

Oh fgs what a nitwit.

His evil plan is... to make you possibly have to order a copy online, at a cost of possibly as much as a few pounds!

heh heh heh

was he stroking a white cat when he came up with this masterplan??

Seriously though, sounds like you are doing the right thing by divorcing him (hope you ARE doing that)

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EasyToEatTiger · 18/08/2017 16:55

Ha ha! No he wasn't stroking a white cat when he came up with his masterplan. The cat wouldn't have gone near him unless it was dead. It's a bloody situation and I am waiting for a video interview with the police. Everyone is on holiday. It's a grim wait.

My husband's behaviour has become very odd indeed. He is really not right in the head.

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category12 · 18/08/2017 19:06

Keep safe.

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honeyroar · 18/08/2017 20:53

Well raging at a dog or a chicken will help! Dickhead. Can anyone take the dog and chickens (and you!) so you're all safe from this bully?

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junebirthdaygirl · 19/08/2017 05:56

Can you go somwhere safe? It doesnt sound good to be next or mnear that guy..i hope you are ok.

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GinIsIn · 19/08/2017 06:03

His behaviour doesn't sound good at all, but surely the marriage cert belongs to both of you so he should be entitled to a copy?

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pullingmyhairout1 · 19/08/2017 06:12

If it's with her solicitor he can't have it can he!

Good luck op. I've divorced 2 controlling (insert expletives) and when you're going through it, it really is hell.

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 19/08/2017 06:24

I hope you are safe and he hasn't exploded.
I mean, it's obviously impotent rage because he can't coerce you into giving him something that you don't have on you, but that's still not going to keep you safe if he kicks off.

I hope that you can get away from him very soon.

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mummytime · 19/08/2017 06:27

I would advise keeping other documents safe with a friend or relative. Eg your passport, birth certificate and any for children too.

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MilkTart · 19/08/2017 06:34

I don't think OP is saying he's not entitled to a copy. She isn't preventing him from obtaining one is she? Why on earth would it be her responsibility anyway? He's perfectly capable of ordering one himself I'm sure.

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WelshMoth · 19/08/2017 06:47

My husband's behaviour has become very odd indeed. He is really not right in the head

How long has he been like this?
Has he had a significant personality change OP?

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EasyToEatTiger · 19/08/2017 08:50

The vitriol is much closer to the surface. He has said throughout our relationship that he must be able to defend himself Hmm so all his self-defence mechanisms are right up at the top too just in case of a perceived slight. He has been clocked by a therapist defending himself like this. I think she thought of it as a one-off. His behaviour has been clocked over the years by many therapists.

I gave the marriage certificate to my solicitor because I didn't want it in the house. It has to live somewhere.

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llangennith · 19/08/2017 09:26

Tell him he can easily get a copy from the relevant registry office.

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EasyToEatTiger · 19/08/2017 10:08

I'm sure he can work that one out for himself. He wants it to wield power over me.

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