I'll try and be brief... I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. I'm 50 he's 53. He had a horrific heartbreak at 49 and tried to kill himself, lost his job and generally really lost it.
We get on brilliantly and have a great sex life etc. He is loving and sweet, but occasionally needs his space and we don't see each other for a couple of days. I love him and have told him so. He told me right at the beginning of our relationship that he didn't want to ever let himself get back to where he was before and that he would never love again.
My question is, we have had a couple of deep and meaningful chats and I got slightly paranoid that he was chatting to a girl he knows and I acted a bit of the crazy paranoid girlfriend....just couldn't help myself. He told me I was turning into someone he didn't like, and then told me he was pretty sure he would never love me like I love him. He is a bit controlling, but I'm usually very strong and it's not a problem.
I'm just trying to work out if I need to just take the fact we are usually fantastic together and get on with it, and one day he may say those words (he is very lovely about me and how much he cares and likes me) or am I kidding myself. I am 50 and a total romantic, we have a better relationship than most people I know, but I'm in head fuck city at the moment.
Anyone understand me ramblings and got any advice?
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Am I overthinking?
Goinglala66 · 17/08/2017 16:51
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