Please be kind. I just need a hand hold really.
I left my abusive ex-husband in 2009. So I'm single mum if 4 children all under 12.
It's taken me a long time to go out dating again.
A year ago I met a nice guy at my church. He is funny, and kind but has a few issues but we share the same faith which was really important to me. I think he has adult ADHD.
I've realised he is very self obsessed. Topics of conversation are always about him. He doesn't like physical touch, but tries to hug me.
He has two children who he is very good with but often leaves them with me when they are up for the weekends.
I help with his washing and I cook his tea. We spend a lot of time together and see each other everyday. We don't live together but he stays over regularly.
I have had a small gyne operation last week and I was very nervous. So was emotional and a bit snappy. Never had general anaesthetic before & was worried about looking after the children and recovering.
He just couldn't cope. He tried to help but seemed irritated I was recovering and couldn't do things. He kept asking me every day 'are you better yet'. The night before my op he text saying he was 'frustrated with the relationship'
After the op -
I pulled on my big girl pants and told him I had seen a side of his behaviour which worried me. That I felt he had let me down massively when I needed his support the most- physical support & emotional.
He walked out upset and since then told me he will try harder to meet my needs and he loves me. To then saying he doesn't love me and wants a break. But then rings and asks if I can 'spare any tea' for him and wash his bedding.
I know he's using me. I think I needed to write it all down. I'm struggling with seeing how he treats me and that I've fallen into this trap of accepting being treated badly yet again.
I've done the Freedom Course. I've had lots of counselling after leaving my ex-husband.
Here I am in tears because I text him this morning asking where we stand in our relationship and he's off hand and abrupt texting back. Saying - on a break.
I know I'm recovering so I'm more emotional. I just feel so let down. After a year together I though he would step up and at least put me first.
Sorry for the long post. I don't really know what I'm asking.
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Hand hold please.
tinkerbellone · 16/08/2017 09:42
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