DH is the kind or head in the sand person and absolutely hates any sort of confrontation.
That means that he will say YES to anything, regardless of whether he is actually happy or not not with the proposition just to avoid either to face the issue or say he disagrees.
Things where we have been having some 'sticking point' vary from needing to move the dcs from one particularly bad school to where to go on Sunday for a family day out. (So from the most serious to the most mundane stuff)
To start with I just took his answers as they were. He said YEs so surely that meant yes right?
Of course, when we did things as if his YES was a real YES, he was then most unhappy about it, cue for many days out where he was grumpy, annoyed and generally giving away a real atmosphere because actually he didn't want to be there.....
Then I learnt that actually no, a YES could well mean NO.
My issue though is that I've been burn so often by 'misunderstanding' his YES that I don't seem to be able to trust his answers anymore. So if he says 'Yes that would be good to do xxx', I feel on edge and expecting for things to go wrong. I feel I'm second guessing myself all the time and that's, in some ways, I can't trust him/what he says iyswim.
I'm not sure how to move form there tbh....
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Can I get over that?
PingoIsLost · 25/07/2017 08:14
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