Marriage is over

[lady1980]

Hi, please bear with me it's long, I'm married 8 years, with him 14 years, 4 years we were in a long distance relationship, I discovered while I was pregnant with my first daughter that my husband had issues with porn, excessive usage, I didn't know how bad it was, forward on 10 months, I discovered I was pregnant with my second child in that same week I discovered, my husband had been looking up escorts in our local area, had exchanged nudes with a much older woman, and had been talking to other women online. I was devastated, I didn't know where to turn, I live 200+ miles from my own family and old friends, that pregnancy was horrible and I spent a lot of it off my feet, I had spd and other health problems, along with a toddler.
I tried my best to move on, we spoke about it and he said he'd never be with a escort. Things have been strained since, intimacy has completely stopped, in the last 2 years its like living with a brother or something.
Last week I discovered his been looking at bestiality and escorts again, I'm just over this, I feel sick, I don't work so I depend on him totally financially, if I didn't have two young kids I'd leave him, I no longer want to be married to him, he seems to think that we are ok 😕😕😕we have been to marriage counselling and it didn't work too well, he is lazy around the house, during the week, everything is done for him, just at the weekend I expect a hand, don't think it's too much to ask, we are due back to counselling tomorrow but I'm going heavy hearted as I couldn't imagine going back to any type of relationship aside from being parents, I'm stuck here for the foreseeable Thank you for reading,

[Aquamarine1029]

I am so very sorry. I can't imagine how you can possibly stay married to a man like that. Can you stay with your family? Have you spoken to them and asked for support? Perhaps at counselling tomorrow you can tell him it's totally over.

[booksandcoffee]

Sounds like you need to leave the bastard asap. I know that is easier said than done, but it is not a healthy set up and the sooner you can get out the better. Good luck OP.

[lady1980]

Thank you both for your replies, I don't have anyone to turn to, my mam passed away shortly after my first baby was born, I'm feeling dreadful, financially for the girls I'm here, that's all, I go to bed early before him, and he usually stays in bed in the morning, just sad 😔

[Lanaa]

Get your things in order, copies of all financial information and LTB. The escorts are bad enough, but bestiality?! That's depraved and you need to get him away from you and your children. I'm pretty sure even looking at that stuff is illegal - you may want to contact the police.