I want to leave DH. We are married, everything is joint and we have one DC. I'm pretty certain that financially I'll be ok. I can buy him out of the home and sort the mortgage, child care etc., myself (although I will expect him to pay his fair share!). I'm by far the higher earner, so I don't think money will be an issue.
What's the first step? I want to be as amicable as possible, so how do we agree access etc. DC is very young still (2) and therefore - I think - more time should be spent at home. If DH lived locally, could he do every morning for instance, and I do the evenings (as we do now re nursery pick ups), and have him say every third weekend? Or is that for us to agree? And when DC is older, how do we change the arrangements so he sees more of his dad (if he wants to.... I don't want to have to share him but I know he needs his dad). What's a likely split in terms of access? Can we live anywhere? I would want me and XH to live close by so DC can see school friends at the weekend, continue going to sports clubs etc. when he's older, but do we have to agree to live close by? Access and doing the right thing for DC is my priority. Thanks all.
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