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Stbxh moving randoms into family home

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PandoraMole · 11/07/2017 20:43

I left with Dd last summer due to his ongoing EA behaviour. I registered my Matrimonial Homes Rights as the property is in his name and DD and I moved in with family. We are currently at decree nisi stage and the house is on the market whilst we finalise the consent order.

Tonight he has told me that he's letting a couple of friends of his move in for the next 6 weeks or so. The girlfriend of the couple is 7 months pregnant, neither of them are working (the bloke is doing up a place for them to move into apparently), there is to be no legal agreement of any kind and they won't be paying rent. I have met these people once.

There is still a fair bit of mine and DDs stuff there and he has been double locking the door to prevent me getting access unless I arrange it with him, which he's difficult about. In the meantime he is more or less living with his GF although he denies it.

I have just had to tell DD what he's doing and she's in bits.We'relly struggling with our living situation and now he's thrown in this curve ball.

Surely this is dodgy as fuck? He seems to think that they will have no rights but I don't fancy our chances of getting a heavily pg or mum and newborn out if it goes pear shaped.

I've messaged work to let them know I'll be in late tomorrow so I can get some legal advice, but can anyone give me any idea of what I need to do about this?

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Fishface77 · 11/07/2017 22:34

Go down and get your stuff.
Get a locksmith today if you have to.

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Fishface77 · 11/07/2017 22:36

You will have to clarify where you stand legally tomorrow.
I'm a bitch so I would empty the house.

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PandoraMole · 11/07/2017 22:54

I'm going over there now to see if I can get in and lock it from the inside then come out the back way. I'm fairly sure he doesn't carry back door keys on him.

Straight onto Land Registry, mortgage company, solicitor and Shelter in the morning.

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PandoraMole · 12/07/2017 00:25

Mission accomplished - should by me enough time to speak to my solicitor in the morning.

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Fishface77 · 12/07/2017 07:29

Well done pandora!
Hope you've took any of your stuff of any value!-

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flumpybear · 12/07/2017 07:38

Yes I think you're right, they'd probably have rights but also I can't believe it would be easy to sell the home with people living there who benefit from the house remaining unsold so they can live there longer
Good luck

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JigglyTuff · 12/07/2017 07:46

Well done. Tell the estate agents too as he might try and get them to let him in.

He will be raging. Be prepared!

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PandoraMole · 12/07/2017 08:35

Most stuff of value is put already and the majority of the remainder is in the loft.

This also means he had nowhere really to see DD and that she can't stay over with him in the holidays (she doesn't particularly want to but that's not the point). What kind of message is that sending her ffs!

Am now outside solicitors waiting for them to open.

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Fishface77 · 12/07/2017 16:43

What didn't solicitors say op?

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Naicehamshop · 12/07/2017 17:04

Any updates, op?

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PandoraMole · 12/07/2017 19:43

Can't do anything about it. Although I've registered matrimonial homes rights, until the house is sold its in his name and he can have who he wants there.

I spoke to him after speaking to the solicitor and have found out a bit more about the situation which has put my mind at rest to some degree.

Had a run in with him when I went to unlock the place but we've smoothed things over to some degree so will just have to hope it all goes ok and we get an offer soon.