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New partners being critical of your children and how you raise them. Is this a recognised thing ?

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Luncharmstrong · 08/07/2017 19:36

I've seen threads here where `OP describes the scenario where a partner moves in and is critical of the parenting skills of the parent , their partner.

My partner of a few years tried this a bit at the start. I tried to placate him and be the peacemaker and became a bit stricter with my teenage children . No bad thing really - they now always clean up after meals etc and keep their rooms decent which I didn't insist on prior to DP.

But he still would try to criticise my children for being lazy and suchlike. Saying I was too soft on them etc.

I woke up to this and stood up to him and told him not to ever criticise my children and things are better now.

So is this a common situation?

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WinchestersInATardis · 08/07/2017 20:55

No idea if it's common but any new DP would get his marching orders if he tried that with me tbh.

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FelixtheMouse · 08/07/2017 21:10

Yes, it's common where the new DP is a prat but not otherwise.

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Joysmum · 08/07/2017 21:21

It's got to be difficult for a new partner moving in with a family.

They are damned if they do try to parent (which they should be able to have a say on in their own home), damned if they don't.

Doesn't excuses them being a dick though.

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