Things are SO much better in my marriage but I am finding it hard sometimes as I find myself almost waiting for DH to start behaving like he used to ( emotionally & sometimes verbally abusive). I know that quite a few times when I have picked him up on something, he isn't being even remotely abusive but my reaction can still be how it used to be. Does that make sense? It's hard to describe how different my day to day life is now & how differently ( and much more healthily) we communicate. But I can get panicky & see problems where there aren't any. DH is making massive changes, talking to me more openly than he ever has & being vulnerable with me which means such a lot. I guess it just takes time to trust again. We are having separate counselling ( his has only just started whilst I have my last session next week). I have changed a lot too & am glad we didn't split up. Any advice how I can relax a bit & not expect old patterns to re emerge?
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