I'm really not sure what I'm hoping to achieve with this post. Perhaps just by writing it all out I'll gain some clarity on the situation and as a bonus I'll get some excellent advice from fellow mns.
I've been with DH for 11 years, married for 10. We have 3 children together, all under the age of 7 years old. He's a good man - reliable, honest, hardworking, a good father, a loving husband. He's also a fair bit older than me, overweight, balding and slowing down in life. I loved him so much when we married, I really did. I wanted, and still do want, to spend the rest of my life with him but my feelings are changing and that terrifies me. I still love him and respect him, but I'm not sure I'm in love with him anymore. These days I find him intensely annoying and grumpy, he's never really been a great conversationalist or the life and soul. On a bad day I find him to be boring, joyless and selfish and I consider how my life would be if he was no longer part of it.
On a good day I realise how lucky I am to have a kind, caring, trustworthy, solid man to share my life with. I think I'm a nutshell I just want to feel how I used to feel about him but i feel like that's gone now. How do I get it back? Can I?
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Not sure if I love him anymore
Butterfly2802 · 05/07/2017 17:31
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