My aunt and uncle (who are more like parents to me) have sold their house and are moving to Spain.
I have always been very close to my aunt as I'm my parents only child and my aunt couldn't have children, so a close relationship was always there. We became closer when I had my children and she retired. She's so lovely; always helpful, always there and always kind. I don't know what I would have done without her for some stuff.
I'm a lot less close to my uncle who is very old-fashioned in his opinions and behaviours. This move is more his decision, which although she is excited about and part of her wants to go, I think she's torn and is mainly going to keep him happy.
There are lots of other issues: Brexit and his ailing health worry me (he had a hip replacement which didn't go exactly to plan last year and has given him other problems, and he has a heart condition). I worry that she will be lonely.
Obviously, I have to let them go and should be happy for them. But I'm finding my own feelings overwhelming sometimes. I've been able to block the sad thoughts out for a few weeks (I was tremendously down and kept bursting into tears one weekend, but have managed to contain in since) but the news of them having sold the house has bought me back down with a thump. It feels like a slow bereavement. I know we won't be able to go over as much as she would like us to, for example. And I know the goodbye at the airport is coming. My kids (8y and 5y) are upset; my 10mo won't really know who they are.
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D886 · 04/07/2017 11:30
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