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Problems at home

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bellsandwhistles89 Mon 03-Jul-17 11:55:37

My DH has a ... difficult family.

They thrive on drama and have issues with drugs and drink, recently one of the family members appears to be stirring the pot. He is going to my DH with information about another family members life (money issues) which is making my DH very worried, my DH has had past childhood issues to do with his family and blames himself a lot, he sees himself as the protector of the person who is apparently having problems. I have said he should just speak to him about them but it doesn't stop him from worrying and stressing over it.

I am fed up seeing my DH beaten down and constantly worried. I know I can only be there to support him and there's not much I can do but is there any advice that you may be able to give? Family is very important to both of us, so they will always be part of our lives.

juliettaa Mon 03-Jul-17 12:40:03

Family is very important to both of us, so they will always be part of our lives.

My advice would be to disengage with all of them, but as your last line states they'll always be part of your lives, I guess my advice is pretty pointless.

If they're always going to be part of your life, then you have to live with the drama. You can't change who they are. You can only change how you deal with them.

Livalot22 Mon 03-Jul-17 13:58:15

I would think about going to Al Anon. Great source of support for family members (or friends) of people with drinking issues.

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