I'm desperately unhappy and would appreciate some other perspectives.
It's difficult to know where to start as I'm not really sure where our issues begin and end...
Me and DP have been together for nearly 10 years, engaged for 5 and we have two beautiful children aged 3 and 9 months.
I have two separate issues I think.. One is that I feel at the the bottom of his list of priorities at the moment and taken for granted. This has led to me feeling unloved and resentful. The other is that he has trouble organising himself and his thoughts due to dyspraxia. This may sound minor but since the birth of our second child, he seems to have been in what looks like a constant state of confusion and distraction. This has left me responsible for absolutely everything and with no support or help. I have not had a meal cooked for me or anything. Instead of our increased responsibilities being shared, it feels like they've been dumped on me and I've been abandoned. He makes promises (marriage/financial security/holiday plans/promising to cook etc etc) and they are never kept.
I'm terrified of being a single parent but I am starting to think it will be easier than trying to form a team with someone who acts alone. His mind is in chaos and my stress makes it worse. I'm aware of and have been sympathetic to, the struggles he faces with organising very basic day-to-day tasks, so much so that I've stopped asking him to do them, as it's much easier for me to. However, this, plus him being unable to ever put my needs first is now making me miserable.
Does anyone have any practical advice? I'm desperate to try and keep my family together but not at the expense of mine and ultimately my children's happiness? Their father is a kind and gentle man. We've been having couples therapy and it is extremely difficult. I guess it would help to hear about how others tackle dyspraxia/ADHD in adults or if there is any way to calm the chaos in his mind.
Thank you.
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Unhappy. Dyspraxic partner.
cardeyscat · 02/07/2017 18:54
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