I have a lovely friend. I've known her quite a long time and we get on really well.
However, every time I see her she always manages to slip into the conversation at least several times during a meet up that she is a 40% tax payer. She's done quite well at work but I'd hardly say that she has a stellar career. I think she earns in the region of £50k.
She used to be like this when we were first friends. I used to ignore her and eventually she seemed to grow out of it. However, she has a fairly new partner who is very materialistic and she's reverted back to old ways.
She's inherited money so has also managed to pay off her mortgage and makes no secret of it. Was openly discussing it with various random people. I just cringed when I was listening to her. I know it sounds like I am jealous but I'm not. I don't earn that much but DH has a very good job and I have also inherited enough to pay off our mortgage/have a decent chunk in the bank. She doesn't actually know that as I haven't shared that info with anyone outside of my immediate family. I know that money can be such an emotive issue and I would rather not alienate myself from people who aren't in such a fortunate position.
Not really sure what I am asking really. Should I tell her she sounds like a tit or just let her get on with it.
I think she's a bit insecure to be honest. This behaviour seems to be fairly common (at least in my experience) amongst people who have just gotten into money be it via a new job, new inheritance, lottery win etc.
I just don't why she does it. I've known her a long time and have always supported her/cheered her on when she's got a new job or had a payrise.
On the surface of it, she has a 'glamorous' job but having worked in the same industry I know it's not. She knows I earn less than her so it feels a bit like an "I'm better than you because I'm a 40% tax payer, have company BUPA, etc. etc."
It really spoils what is otherwise a great friendship.
I've got a mate like this and it gets tedious. She's always spouting the same old story to people we bump into and bragging about how rich she is, where they are going on vacation (never calls it a holiday) and what new possessions they have bought for themselves.
I'm used to it now and smile when she's going off on one, plus I can see people glaze over as they probably know the same story.
I have a similar friend. I think she's a great person just very materialistic. We work in the same industry. As I went and had a baby and she hasn't she now has excelled in her career and I'm very happy for her. But just makes me feel uncomfortable when she starts talking about salaries or what her really expensive procedure she's had now. I'm just a little more modest and don't feel the need to brag about such things. I'd just smile and let her got on with it knowing she sounds silly
Ah, I'd say she's just really thrilled with herself but it's a bit annoying to keep pointing it out to someone who clearly doesn't want to discuss money. I remember when my best friend got a job with a big pay rise and how excited she was, she's been steadily doing well since for example her shares did really well and she tells me this stuff because she knows I get a kick out of her success and that I've good finances too so it's not rubbing it in. But we love to natter about her options to buy house, build house, savings and investments etc. It's exciting! I can see she just can't believe her luck and is thrilled at the position she is in. I've had moments in life like that too and know I can share with her too. It's a total mumsnet no no but in reality people with money and financial options are fucking delighted they have money. It's just not something that should be spoken about outside of partners or very close friends who are mutually happy to discuss finances.
I have a friend who keeps on telling me that she's proud of herself and can't believe how well she's done for herself. It's annoying. She's a nurse who earns 32k (which is much more than I earn) but she got to such an 'impressive' salary mostly through luck rather than hard work.
She also never stops talking about the shopping she's done and where she's going on holiday.
I'm happy for her but bored and annoyed that she's never stops talking about it.
We're very similar in terms of our educational achievements/background but she has done better on the career front than me as she's just more career/money motivated. In that department, it always felt like she put herself above me in terms of her job, earning power, etc. She bigs herself a lot and it's just sounds a bit daft for someone who is effectively only a middle manager.