Separation or divorce?

[Boopboopboop]

The background is that DF cheated on DM with the same woman for the last 15 years they were together. They've now separated but get on ok, I think mainly for the sake of GCs.

DF isn't with the OW anymore but he's told me he's seeing other people (DM doesn't know this). She thinks they should get divorced but he doesn't want to but she thinks this way he's free to do whatever he likes (I can see what she means, he won't be her "husband" anymore) however she doesn't work anymore and I'm worried she won't be as financially stable if they divorce.

The other part of it is that Dm has had several serious illnesses so I feel I have to look out for her plus she has no income without DF.

[Hermonie2016]

Without a formal separation/divorce your dm is dependant on your father to treat her fairly.

She should definitely see a solicitor and arm herself with the financial facts.Your father may decide to spring a divorce on her at some stage.

[willconcern]

A divorce would involve a legally binding financial settlement, if your DM has a good lawyer. This may explain why your DF doesn't want to get divorced - he will have to share his financial situation in depth, he may have to share his pension with your DM.

She will be much more financially secure after a divorce than before.

[Boopboopboop]

Thanks for the advice, makes a lot of sense

[HeddaGarbled]

Though you seem to think they get on OK, I think this must be soul destroying for her to be still linked to this man who treats her so cruelly and disrespectfully. She needs to be legally divorced from him for her self preservation.

[Boopboopboop]

I agree hedda