Short version - my dm is very lovely but also incredibly entitled and often rude. Dh has said he will not tolerate being in the same room as her anymore. Is he over reacting?
Long version - My dm is my closest friend. I will admit she's an absolute fucking nightmare but she's also one of the funniest, cleverest, most generous people I know. Dh has said for several years how embarrassing he finds her behaviour but to be honest I've just kind of laughed it off. I find her behaviour embarrassing too, but she lives hundreds of miles away and most of her antics are heard about second hand and we're not witness to them.
She recently came to stay and was very kindly babysitting dc's so dh and I could have a night away. She decided it would be fun to camp with them in the field at the bottom of our garden. We don't own the field and have a large garden that is perfectly fine to camp in. She then got in a massive argument with the farmer (who is also a chair of ds's school), at 5 in the morning when he dared to try and move his sheep into his own field. When we got home the following morning she told us what happened, I begged her to go and apologise to farmer as I see him regularly and it's fucking embarrassing. She refused and refused to acknowledge she did anything wrong at all.
Dh is now saying he doesn't want to ever have to be in the same room as her again. He says he's put up with her craziness for far too long and wants nothing more to do with her.
I obviously can't force him to spend time with her but she'd be massively hurt if I told her that dh won't see her anymore. But I'll have to won't I?
There are far too many examples of her behaviour over the years for me to list all of them but I do read MN expecting AIBU to be mostly about my dm. One example would be her steadfast believe that her National Trust membership entitles her to access NT properties whenever she likes. I remember plenty of childhood picnics ending in being chased off someone's front lawn. She also writes incredibly long letters to the Guardian, probably 3-4 a week for reasons she has never fully disclosed. She is also incredibly competitive - she turns up at random school sports days and races round the outside of the track (she used to do this at my school sports days too).
How bad would you say she was based on that? Bad bad or just a bit 'eccentric'?
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How bad is my mum?
Mymumsanighthorse · 26/06/2017 20:47
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