Hi
I will just give a bit of background information, i have been with my partner since i was 17, ten years npw and we have 3 children under 7.
I dont really know where to start but basically want to know veiws on whether i am over reacting or not. My partner is quite hot headed and flys off the handle quickly, he also seems to expect too much from the kids in my view and treats our eldest differently. Our eldest csn be a bit of a handful at times, i can see that but he can also be sensible sweet and well behaved.
I am at my wits end with the way my partner is dealing with him, he gets aggresive, shouts and swears over tiny things. I just cannot stand it anymore, always feel on edge incase my son does even the tiniest thing out of line and all the shouting and swearing starts. I have lost it today when he asked my son not to move the little slide in the garden (all 3 kids were playing a game with it) he moved it one foot over and he flew off the handle calling him a f*ing pr*k and c*t.in my eyes it is disgusting to speak like that to anyone let alone your 7 yr old son and i am ashamed to say its not the first time he has used that language and called names.
Hes always very sorry when he has cooled down, promises never to do it again but it doesn't last long. But i have noticed he trys to blame my son in a way and say well if he listened the first time i wouldnt have to do that which ive obviously had a massive go at him for even trying to make excuses gor it and put the blame onto our son.
Hes not extremely naughty or anything just sometimes we have to ask him more than once or he doesnt always listen straight away. When its just me and the kids he behaves generally good and listens more.
What im asking really is your opinions, i know its wrong, and although he acts sorry it always happens again. My middle son is close to his dad, and he doesnt speak that way to him, he is generally better behaved (akthough i know thats no excuse) so i feel bad for him as when weve rowed before he has been upset and hes a very sensitive child.
It has become so bad that my mum will hardly speak to him now when we was all close before as she hates it too which makes family life quite awkward as i see quite a lot of her. She has had words with him before also. I feel like i cannot be with him anymore as its unfair on my son having to be talked to like that on a regular basis, his home should be happy and by staying with him im not providing a safe home, i really feel like im letting him down. He doesn't have much of a relationship with his dad and is a lot closer to me.
Just wanr some reassurance or opinions if im doing the right thing.
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mumofthreesmallmen3 · 26/06/2017 17:55
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