I often read situations on here which seem really unfair when it comes to sharing out the money in a relationship but I am really unsure what is best for us! Would love your input.
DH and I have been married for 13 years and have 3 children. DH works full time and I work part-time which works out great for childcare as I can do almost all of it. We both have no problem with this. When we met I moved in with DH and his flat was only in his name (fair enough). Now we have sold that and bought a flat together: however, my contribution was around 30,000 - all of my savings, but still very little compared to what he put in (money from his flat, basically). He pays all the mortgage. I pay for food, children's clothes and school expenses (e.g. school dinners, trips etc) and anything I need. We both pay for holidays - but he pays more than me.
Here's the problem. He earns a lot more than me so I spend the whole of my salary every month whereas he has money left over. We are both quite cautious with money but I now want to start paying into a private pension and can't afford to unless he does it for me or I cut down on family spending. I really don't know what is fairest here. On one hand, he pays the mortgage and, thanks to him, I am a part owner of a flat and I have a car (which he bought), but on the other hand, I don't really have any of my own money left to do anything with (even something as boring as starting a pension!) What would be fair here? (We can't open a joint account as they are not available where we live). Would love to hear your thoughts.
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Splitting finances, what's fair?
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olddogsnewtricks · 24/06/2017 15:03
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