I read a lot of threads on here about affairs and people who cheat. They are often incredibly distressing and I admire the strength of the partner who seeks advice on here. But why do SO many partners cheat? It seems so commonplace? Is there something wrong with society's expectations of sex and relationships that causes people to carry out huge levels of deceit? I'm not married to my partner. Part of my reason for this is because I don't feel I need to say vows, I don't want to feel like I 'own' him - I want him to be a free person. I love him, I don't want to control him. To say 'til death us do part' seems a bit wrong - as I can't predict the future. He hasn't cheated on me, but TBH - I would forgive him if he did. Am I wrong to feel this way? As a human, as an animal - reproduction is one of our main characteristics. It is such a huge part of our lives. Animals have sex, yet humans have put big social constraints on how and why we should have sex and who we should have sex. Animals eat, but humans have social conditions about HOW we should eat (certain times of the day, using knives and forks etc). I guess so that we are 'civilised' and removed from how other animals behave. Perhaps societies social expectations of sex need to change?? Am I talking utter rubbish?? I just see a lot of upset and family break downs on here. It's so upsetting.
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