My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Relationships

He has no idea I want out

6 replies

Busybecca · 24/06/2017 00:11

DP is financially abusive, extremely lazy, cannot do anything with the DC, has a history of dishonesty and porn addiction, is a danger to the DC and just generally really irritates the hell out of me. I have been a fool doing absolutely everything and getting into debt and I have had enough. We have nothing to talk about. He follows me around the house. I've never left the house without DC in almost 5 years. He has a DC from a previous relationship that I think he's lied about why he doesn't see them. He's lied about hs earnings. He's secretive with his phone. I could go on but I think you get the idea.

The thing is, he genuinely thinks all is rosy and I'm that I'm really happy to be with him (!) It's beyond the point where talking could solve anything, I actively dislike him. I want to sort out a property and tell him the DC and I are leaving. Is this really unfair of me? I have no support whatsoever and am pregnant so it's not a decision I've taken lightly but I feel ill be trapped here for longer if I wait until after the baby is born.

OP posts:
elephantoverthehill · 24/06/2017 00:18

I think instinct kicks in. You know when it is time. Others will be along with more practical advice.

Flyingmoonpig · 24/06/2017 00:44

Someone said to me earlier that it's just like a switch that is flicked and you can't go back... that's certainly how it is for me right now. Sometimes you just come to the end and it's not fair to anyone to fake a relationship xx

SandyY2K · 24/06/2017 02:23

I don't think it's unfair of you, if he's as bad as you say.

KarmaNoMore · 24/06/2017 02:28

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Wallywobbles · 24/06/2017 03:42

Bi need to do anything that makes it harder. Prepare well and leave. Inform afterwards.

Wallywobbles · 24/06/2017 03:42

Bi=no

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.